涟漪

一直想要好好地自己沉淀一下
 可是你的出现却不停拨动我的心房

Lizard Love

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2004345/Lizard-love-Male-warms-heart-female-bunch-flowers.html

I was walkin' down the street

When someone called my name

She had spiked heels on her feet

And she was feelin' no pain

Ohhh must be Lizard Love

So I hid behind the newspaper

Turned to page six

She was in her birthday suit

Behind a crucifix

Ohhh must be Lizard Love

She was hangin' big booty

She was puss n' boots way up to here

She's a little bit of heaven, a 24-7

A 10 every day of the year

Now there must be some mistake

I'm feelin' so high strung

She said 'I make love like a snake

I even got a forked tongue'

At first I thought I was dreamin'

That I'd wake up and she'd dissappear

But when I opened up my eyes

She was laughing and a screamin' swinging from the chandlier

You know I never seem to give

Or ever get enough

And I just can't seem to live without

That sweet bodacious stuff

Ohhh must be Lizard Love

A fate I cannot excape from

Feel like sharing a bit of my working life recently, as I hardly got chance to catch up with friends either via internet or drink a cup of coffee with.

Most of my colleagues have the same age as my parents. So, I have gone back to the times being called "Ah Boy". OMG, I cant believe that, I am just graduated from NUS and people call me Ah Boy. But as long as they treat me well so I dont mind lah HEHEHE

The rest of my colleagues are all above 27 and somemore most of them are engaged, married and even have baby!!! Wah, totally I feel I am in a very awkward situation now!

Kinda sleepy and dizzy now, 134am and I reached my room 1 hour ago from my company D&D, kinda enjoy but stunned to see those foreign workers get high and lost control. Kinda lucky to get Carlo Rossi to end my first D&D in Dril-Quip! :D

Few more days to finish 1st month service, let's hope things get better! All the best ya :D:D Same to all my friends are having exam/working/job hunting!

What's life recently

It has been around 2 weeks after I started my 1st job in Singapore. And I just get myself settled down in Taman Jurong, somewhere near Lakeside MRT Station.

I was staying in Ang Mo Kio with my brother while I am looking for a place to move. Waking up at 530am in the morning and reaching home at 7pm is quite exhausting and draining. Those weekends I would rather stayed in room or went back to Malaysia to have a better quality of rest. I also dont even have the energy to update my blog. However, staying in AMK is not that bad. At least nearer to the town, people you get to see there are at least treating your eyeballs better. LOL. You shall know what I mean.

Getting all my gears ready for new life! Ya, going back to healthy lifestyle as well, jogging, futsal, gym and many more. And also get chance to drink a cup of coffee with my friends.

CATCH UP SOON MY FRIENDS :D

Sweet comes after bitter

Yeah yeah! After sending out resume for over 300 job applications, attending 12 interviews and also  rejected 1 job offer, I have finally gotten myself a job! :)

Here marks the end of my not-so-relaxing summer vacation, and the start of my exciting working life :D

Tough week ever

Last week was really a hard time for me
I pray things get better onwards

p/s: notice any changes in my blog? :p

Again?!

I will get emo at the every end of the month this year. It seems to my usual living habit but I hope I will get rid off it soon (I am trying my best now).

Every single thing that is not going smooth will be my source. Recently, it is the torturing moment to wait for offer after attended job interview. 希望越大，失望越大。If I don't put on so much hope, my life will be grey. NO WAY!!!!

As they say when God close a door from you, he opens a window for you at the same moment.

I also leave a place for you in my heart. :) (This smiley looks ironic LOL)

10-Steps to Prevent Breast Cancer

1. Maintain a healthy body weight (BMI less than 25) throughout your life.Weight gain in midlife, independent of BMI, has been shown to significantly increase breast cancer risk. Additionally, and elevated BMI has been conclusively shown to increase the risk of post-menopausal breast cancer.

2. Minimize or avoid alcohol.Alcohol use is the most well established dietary risk factor for breast cancer. The Harvard Nurses’ Health study, along with several others, has shown consuming more than one alcoholic beverage a day can increase breast cancer risk by as much as 20-25 percent.

3. Consume as many fruits and vegetables as possible. Eat seven or more servings daily. The superstars for breast cancer protection include all cruciferous vegetables (broccoli, cabbage, brussels sprouts, cauliflower) ; dark leafy greens (collards, kale, spinach) ; carrots and tomatoes. The superstar fruits include citrus, berries and cherries. Note:it is best to eat cruciferous vegetables raw or lightly cooked, as some of the phytochemicals believed to offer protection against breast cancer are destroyed by heat.

4. Exercise regularly the rest of your life.Many studies have shown that regular exercise provides powerful protection against breast cancer. Aim for 30 minutes or more of moderate aerobic activity (brisk walking) five or more days a week. Consistency and duration, not intensity, are key!

5. Do your fats right!The type of fat in your diet can affect your breast cancer risk. Minimize consumption of omega-6 fats (sunflower, safflower, corn and cottonseed oils), saturated fats and trans fats. Maximize your intake of omega-3 fats, especially from oily fish (salmon, tuna, mackerel, sardines, lake trout and herring). Consume monounsaturated oils (canola, olive oil, nuts/seeds, avocados) as your primary fat source, as these foods have potential anticancer properties. Specifically, canola oil is a good source of omega-3 fats; extra virgin olive oil is a potent source of antioxidant polyphenols, including squalene; and nuts and seeds provide you with the cancer protective mineral, selenium.

6. Do your carbs right!Minimize consumption of the high glycemic index, “Great White Hazards” – white flour, white rice, white potatoes, sugar and products containing them. These foods trigger hormonal changes that promote cellular growth in breast tissue. Replace these “wrong” carbs with whole grains and beans/legumes. Beans/legumes because of their high fiber and lignan content are especially special.

7. Consume whole food soy products regularly, such as tofu, tempeh, edamame, roasted soy nuts, soy milk and miso.Only consume organic, non-GMO (genetically modified) soy. Epidemiologic studies have shown a positive association between soy consumption and reduced breast cancer risk.

8. Minimize exposure to pharmacologic estrogens and xeno-estrogens.Do not take prescription estrogens unless medically indicated. Lifetime exposure to estrogen plays a fundamental role in the development of breast cancer. Also avoid estrogen-like compounds found in environmental pollutants, such as pesticides and industrial chemicals. Buy organic produce if you can afford it; otherwise, thoroughly wash all non-organic produce. Minimize exposure to residual hormones found in non-organic dairy products, meat and poultry.

9. Take your supplements daily.A multivitamin, 500-1,000 mg of vitamin C in divided doses, 200-400 IUs of vitamin E as mixed tocopherols, and pharmaceutical grade fish oil. Also take 200 mcg of the mineral selenium or eat one to two Brazil nuts as an alternative. If you have a chronic medical condition or take prescription drugs, consult your physician first.

10. Maintain a positive mental outlook. Engage in self-nurturing behaviors regularly. Develop rich, warm and mutually beneficial relationships with family and friends. Get adequate sleep (7-8 hours per night). The mind-body associations with breast cancer are significant.

When I grow older

Something happens around me and I never expect myself to come across this so much earlier.
At one of the night, I suddenly come with this question: What will I do when I am in this situation?

Quit? Feeling sad to hurt them if I choose to do so
Fight until the end? It might just become others' burden

At the end, I realized that in this world, nothing can be done and I am left with no choice to choose as I am not able to do anything when I strike with this situation.


Life kinda suck right.

男子汉

每个女孩都是我们人生的烛火，照亮了我们每段时期疯狂追求爱情的动人姿态，帮助我们这些男孩，一步一步，成为像样的男子汉。
我们所要做的，就是再多喜欢那女孩一点。再多一点，再多一点一点。
只要够喜欢，就没有办不到的等待。
就可以一直靠信仰爱情，坚持下去。

Social networking

Happen to find this picture when I come across one of my friends' blog.

Have been using/believing in this kind of screening and filtering method since I start playing facebook years ago.

Judging people from their tagged photos and even wall posts. And until recently privacy issue is raised among people all around the world, it becomes a hard and tough time for facebook stalkers (I am not one of them LOL)

Hide friend list (another long story to tell, maybe in next blog post), limit the content viewed by people not in friend list and even considered to hide my tagged photo. In the end, I ended up in unfriending some people.

My oversea friends are always amazed at the huge amount of my friends in Facebook while they might only have 100 over friends in their facebook. Culture shock huh?

So, facebook, what kind of role is it playing in our life????

Wooden Bowls

A frail old man lived with his son, his daughter-in-law, and his four-year-old grandson. His eyes were blurry, his hands trembled, and his step faltered.

The family would eat together nightly at the dinner table. But the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and failing sight made eating rather difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon, drooping to the floor. When he grasped his glass of milk, it often spilled clumsily at the tablecloth.

With this happening almost every night, the son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess.

"We must do something about grandfather," said the son.

"I've had enough of his milk spilling, noisy eating and food on the floor," the daughter-in-law agreed.

So the couple set a small table at the corner.

There, grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed their dinner at the dinner table. Since grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in wooden bowls. Sometimes when the family glanced in grandfather's direction, he had a tear in his eye as he ate alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food. The four-year-old watched it all in silence.

One evening, before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly: "What are you making?" Just as sweetly, the boy replied, "Oh, I'm making a little bowl for you and mama to eat your food from when I grow up." The four-year-old smiled and went back to work.

These words so struck the parents that they were speechless. Then tears streamed down their cheeks. Though no words were spoken, both knew what must be done. That evening, the husband took grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table.

For the remainder of his days, grandfather ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk was spilled or the table cloth was soiled.

In one of the nights during last week, I happen to come across this story and coincidentally relate to what I witness at that moment.

Chinese always take emphasize on moral especially filial. I am a chinese educated person, so I always wonder why those people can treat their parents so badly. Not saying that their parents treat them badly but still they raise them up.

I admit that I treat my parents quite bad as in sometime my behavior is really bad towards them. I sweat that I wont be that kind of people who abandon their parents when they get married and rich!

Forgive Forgave Forgiven

For those who are not in your situation,
dont blame them not putting themselves in your shoes.
Be generous, be mature
Time is the best medicine, that cures everything
wash away all the trace, just like the tide
not waiting for anyone, no any chances

十年之前  我不认识你你不属于我 
我们还是一样陪在一个陌生人左右 
走过渐渐熟悉的街头 
十年之后  我们是朋友还可以问候 
只是那种温柔再也找不到拥抱的理由 
情人最后难免沦为朋友 
直到和你做了多年朋友 
才明白我的眼泪 
不是为你而流也为别人而流

Since you been gone

It has been a long time since your last visit.
I have kinda lost my motivation to write something here.
I hope it is not true.

How can I put it, you put me on
I even fell for that stupid love song
Yeah, yeah, since you been gone
How come I'd never hear you say
I just wanna be with you
Guess you never felt that way

敬啟者 給十五歲的你

此刻 不要放棄 不要流淚
彷彿下一秒就要消失之時
只要相信自己的聲音 昂首闊步向前走就好
大人的我 也曾有過受了傷
而難以成眠的夜晚
苦中帶甜 活在當下

Brainless

How I wish I am brainless sometime
It just keep thinking, analyzing and processing
And show me those I dont want to see, know and realise
Damn

一位父亲的信：不要让迷茫为你无法重来的青春买单

亲爱的Joan：

你好！过完这个暑假，你就要大四了，这也意味着你即将离开校园，步入社会与职场，去寻找属于你自己的位置，承担生命赋予你的应有责任。

可能由于家庭条件比较好的原因，你所有的事情都是由父母做主，你也不用为自己的前途忧虑。在老师的眼中，你永远都是一个听话的好学生。你自幼就一直生长在父母的襁褓中，似乎从来就没有长大过。

可是，作为一个过来人，我却隐隐有一种强烈的不安感。这种不安，不是来自于外界看似激烈的就业压力，而是来自于你内心职业价值观的缺失，让你无法在社会上拥有立足的资本。

从校园步入社会，这对于每个人来说都是非常重要的一步。但这一步怎么才能走得更好，你们或许并不知道答案。有的人有先见之明，知道怎样才能赚足在社 会上立 足的资本，于是他们未雨绸缪，很快就会在职场上崭露头脚，并在以后的道路上越走越踏实，最终成为“扼住命运咽喉”的人；而有的人在明白这一切之后，时间已 经过去了3年、5年甚至更久，而此时最佳的职业发展机会已经离他而去。

我会经常看到那些职场上工作多年依然找不到航向的人，他们最渴望的，就是生活能够给他们重来一次的机会；同样，我也会经常看到那些刚刚步入职场的新人，没有目标和方向，依然在重复那些错误的老路。

人生只能活一次，走错了，谁都输不起。对于年轻人来说，步入职场的前3年，是快速积累你能力的黄金3年。你需要在这3年内构建起你的各项能力，不要 再让迷 茫和困惑充斥你的生活。不然，韶华已逝，你已不再年轻，你与同龄人的差距越拉越大，而与你的年龄相匹配的经验和能力却是一片空白。内心的惶恐、焦虑和不 安，会让你逐渐对自己的未来失去信心。

“师者，所以传道、授业、解惑也。”现在的大学，照本宣科式的教育，不仅没有帮助你们“解惑”，反而四年读下来，让你更加迷惑。同时，“被就业”、 “就业 率注水”这样的现实，反而丧失了高校为人师表的最基本的道德形象。而对于“明明德、亲民、止于至善”这样的至高境界，恐怕永远只能成为一个空想了。你们没 有学到扎实的基础知识，也没有学会做人的基本道理，这才是你们这个群体被社会和企业所排斥的根源。

无论外在的环境对你多么不利，你一定要有自己的思想。学而不思则惘。缺少独立思考，没有自己的价值观，即便你读到硕士、博士，也只是一个丧失了灵魂 的躯 壳。我知道，你们成天在抱怨自己的学校，抱怨自己的老师，抱怨他们的照本宣科和闭门造车，抱怨学校的教育与社会需求脱节太严重，一方面是企业大量的招聘需 求得不到满足，另一方面却是越来越多的大学生找不到工作，这本身就是对高等教育一个绝好的讽刺。但是，这些抱怨是没有用的，只会徒增你的烦恼。你需要学会 的，是如何远离抱怨，在逆境中成长自己。

现在的年轻人，有活力，和想法，但同样也存在很多的问题，阻碍着你们的成长。所有的这些问题，我都写在了《职场救赎——写给迷茫中的草根族》这本书 中。书中提到的两个问题，应该特别引起你和同龄人们的注意：1、我被同化了吗？当你身边的同学们都 在考研、考公的时候，你是否也觉得自己应该和他们一样，千篇一律走同样的道路？你是否还在按照别人的意志去行动？你始终要记住一点：这个社会永远只属于强 者！成功的人会按照自己的想法去改变他人，引领社会进步，而失败者则永远只会按照他人的意志去行动。你如果在思想上沦为了别人的奴隶，也就注定你这一生永 远只能被别人牵着鼻子走。2、我愿意雇佣我自己吗？假如你自己是老板，你会雇佣一个像“我”这样的人吗？当你们在不断抱怨被用人单位拒绝的时候，你是否反 思过，我凭什么获得这个机会？我身上有哪些连我自己都无法容忍的缺点？当我面临失败时，我是迎难而上，还是习惯性地把“别人也是这样”作为自己失败的安慰 剂？我如何才能尽快融入社会，成为一个优秀的职业人？

每个人的路，最终都要靠你自己走，永远不要把别人的失败作为自己停止前进的借口。也不要只看到别人的光鲜而忽略了他们的付出。只要你努力了，不管最 终的结 果是什么，我相信这个过程都会让你学习到人生道路上的最重要一课。正如胡适先生所言，“在我们看不见想不到的时候，在我们看不见的方向，你瞧！你下的种子 早已生根发叶开花结果了！”“你要深信：天下没有白费的努力。成功不必在我，而功力必不唐捐。”（唐捐，即白白浪费）

你即将步入社会。虽然学历上的大学马上要结束，但你人生的大学才刚刚开始，这需要你用一生的精力去仔细研读与思考。书我已经给你寄过去了，里面列出 了从一名大学生到一名优秀的职场人所必备的全部职业素养，并且告诉了你具体的实施办法，希望你能把书中所学应用到工作中。你永远要记得：我从哪里来，要往 哪里去，踏踏实实走好自己的每一步，不要让迷茫为你无法重来的青春买单。

总之，我希望你是一个有独立思想、远离抱怨、并且能够踏踏实实去行动的人。在这个条路上，肯定会有很多的困难，但我相信，这正是你成长的基石。正如 李嘉诚 先生所言，“生命抛来一颗柠檬，你是可以把它转榨为柠檬汁的人。要描绘自己独特的心灵地图，你才可发现热爱生命的你；有思维、有能力、有承担、建立自我的 你；有原则、有理想、追求无我的你。”

5年之后，我期望你成功的好消息！加油

HAAHAA

今天地铁里没座，我跟女友隔了一些距离。
后面上一男的找我女友搭讪，女友不搭理他，他又問她起了电话号码！女友继续不理。
这时我挤到女友身边，朝那男的甩了一句：“太没用了，看我的”
然后一把抱过女友，当众深吻，道：“做我女朋友吧。”
女友满脸通红应了声“嗯。”
当时那男的就蒙了。

属于我们的秘密

　　加班，一杯咖啡提神，Z市的初夏，似乎闷热来的早一些。夜，华灯初上，我喜欢夜晚，喜欢繁华的路灯照亮一切的感觉，喜欢在夜幕中看自己手心里的孤独，于是起身，把客厅的灯关掉，打开一扇窗，迎面扑来微弱的凉风。轻轻靠在窗边，这世间暗藏着不知多少清亮的欢喜。置身于属于自己的静谧之中，品味自己的孤独，哪怕只有一刻钟。

　　只给了自己一刻钟，于是再起身，再开灯，再一次置身于忙忙碌碌中。

　　时间像杯子里的酒一样被雪碧冲淡了颜色，繁琐的工作背后，内心却越发的安静，多想生活可以如岁月静好，心无旁骛。

　　忘不了那个冬天，独自在异乡受挫，最孤独最无助的我却被遥远的他抛弃的那个夜晚，我举目无亲，我走投无路，我浑浑噩噩打了一通电话给一个未曾谋面的网友，痛哭一场，于是那个冬天，我拖着疲惫的身体连同满身的疮痍跌跌撞撞地踏上北上的列车，在列车中途休息的时候，我却鬼使神差般拖着行李下了车，来到了这个陌生的城市。

　　只是想暂时的小憩，舔舐一下伤口，生活总是在不知不觉改变着，不曾想，三年后的今天，我却在这里生根发芽。我犹如一个乞丐，四处游荡，落魄到身无分文的地步，如一叶扁舟在大海上漫无目的的飘荡，不知下一步将要漂向何处。

　　我终于学会了不再强求，终于知道了没有什么可以永垂不朽，就算是情比志坚，也抵不过造化弄人。

　　于是，我毅然决然地向远方的朋友借了两千块钱，租房，拉网线，淘了一些便宜的不能再便宜的二手家具，住进了月租150元的阁楼里，于是我开始撒网般找工作，投档，失败，再投档，再失败，日子就在反反复复中度过。

　　一个人的日子，单纯而枯燥，在这个陌生的城市里，我似一个失去家园的灵魂，孤独的行走在城市的边缘，等待的 日子里，我盲目的给自己各种定位，我能够做什么，我需要做什么，我应该怎么做，类似的问题充斥着我的大脑，让我不能自已。在我漫无目的不知所措到抓狂的时 候，我的QQ里面闪出一个小喇叭，于是我加上了你，于是百无聊赖的开始聊天，从天南到海北，渐渐地我了解到你也是奔波在异地他乡的一个游子，做着一份平凡 的业务员的工作。于是你把我带入到你的世界里面，让我渐渐对你的职业产生了浓厚的兴趣。

　　与君初相识，犹如故人归。

　　当初若不是你，我不会进入到现在的公司，犹记得那个时候，你不厌其烦的陪我角色扮演客户和业务员的游戏，遇到问题，你会马上对我提出，并指出我的不足与值得鼓励的 地方；你说要我看清这个现实的社会，告诉我这个社会上充斥着很多的好人，坏人和假好人，让我不要上当受骗；你让我去拜读《货币战争》和《国富论》，让我学 会自己推敲一些事情；你让我每天都要坚持看时事新闻和财经报道，让我武装自己的头脑；你让我给自己定一个即期目标，告诫我无论如何都要完成，只有这样我才 能时时刻刻的鞭笞自己，勇往直前……所有你教给我的，我全部努力的在做，工作的一年当中，我随时随地向你汇报着我工作的情况与现状，在异地出差的日子，遇 到刁钻的客户，迷茫到不知所措的时候，你总是会给我指明一条我应该走的路，令我豁然开朗。我有时候会怨天尤人，会愤世嫉俗，也会不停地去做白日梦，你总是对我说“临渊羡鱼不如退而结网”。你总是告诉我，把我训练到一定的程度，你就会离开，我却从来没有放在心上，当我签到第一份合约的时候，第一时间我哭着对你说我成功了，我迈出了第一步。自此以后，你却离开了，你淡出了我的视线，远离了我的世界，你换了手机号，你的QQ头像从此以后再也没有亮过，那是我们认识的第406天，我却从来不知，你的名字……

　　从那以后，我爱上了姜育恒的《驿动的心》：

　　“路过的人我早已忘记

　　经过的事已随风而去

　　驿动的心已渐渐平息

　　疲惫的我是否有缘

　　与你相依”

　　我开始自律，不需要你再天天提醒我告诫我，我努力的学习工作，遇到问题也学会临危不惧，泰然自若的想办法解决，这些，你都看到了吗？你离开以后，我把所有想对你说的话全部记在一本日记本里面，包括我们一起经历的点点滴滴，我的近况，我的工作日志。我再也不是你眼里那个傻乎乎的我了。

　　转眼间，三年过去了。

　　这些年来，身边总是会有华宴，有佳宾，葡萄美酒夜光杯，觥筹交错，笑靥如花。

　　是的，我成功了，三年的时间，我从一个懵懵懂懂的小女孩蜕变成一名睿智的职业女性。三年前，我是一个奔波在社会最底层的小小业务员，三年后我成为公司业绩第一的大区女经理；三年前我背着公文包骑着20块钱淘来的二手自行车满大街推销公司的产品，赚取那微薄的仅够我满足温饱的薪水，三年后我拥有了属于自己的车，手下拥有上百名业务员为我疲于奔命；三年前，我住在与别人合租，每月仅150元的阁楼单间里吃着泡面榨菜，咀嚼着我惨淡的青春，三年后我住在了属于自己的三室一厅，惬意的喝着咖啡，听着音乐，审阅着业绩报表，想念远方的你。

　　三年之中，我拿下了公司曾经放弃的区域，取得了公司想都不敢想的业绩，很多人让我分享成功的经验，可在我心里面，答案只有一个——只因那片土地有你的身影。三年后，我在属于你的城市里设立了自己的办事处，每年往返两个城市的次数不计其数，然而我却从来没有与你擦肩而过。

　　我知道，这是你的性格，亦是我的个性。

　　这是属于我们之间的秘密。

　　只可惜，我没有来得及好好的谢谢你。

　　你说“我们还会一起走下去”

　　你却消失在茫茫人海

　　我只希望

　　希望你过得好

　　灿烂

　　生如夏花

　　一切都会好起来

　　不想说过去更好抑或是现在更好

　　我只想说

　　未来，会更好

　　我们都会一如既往的向前走

　　马不停蹄

我要我的孩子知道的20件事

1995年「黃金階梯」這本書，原著書名是「20 Things I Want My Kids To Know，我要我的孩子知道的20件事」。記得那時讀完這本書，我的確整理了自己「人生方向」的一些想法，我也記得當時真有所感：「這是我要我的孩子知道的20件事」。

作者在引言裡，寫出他為何寫這本書的理由：

1. 因為我愛年輕人，我瞭解他們的生活並不容易

2. 因為學校裡不教「如何生活」，也不教「人生的基本要素」

3. 因為年輕人需要外界的幫助，來發絕自己的美好潛能

4. 因為老式的真理從不過時

到底是那20件事？以下節錄與父母們分享。

1. 成功在於做，不在於得

成功就是將我所有的做最好的運用。成功是在於做，而不在於得；是在於嘗試，而不在於勝利。 / 戴韋恩(Wynn Davis)

2. 人生是艱苦的

人生是一連串的問題。我們要去埋怨？還是去解決這些問題？ / 派史考特(M. Scott Peck)

3. 人生充滿樂趣

開懷大笑應該是人與生俱來最高層次的天賦本能。 / 克曾茲(Norman Cousins)

4. 我們依靠選擇而活

上帝並沒有問我們要不要來到人世間，我們只能接受而無從選擇。我們唯一可以做的選擇是：決定如何活著。 / 畢亨利(Henry Ward Beecner)

5. 態度是一種選擇

人所有的一切都可以被奪走，除了一件東西，就是人在任何情況下，選擇自己的態度與道路的自由。 / 法蘭科爾(Viktor Frankl)

6. 習慣是成功的關鍵

事實上，成功者與失敗者之間唯一的差別在於，他們擁有不一樣的習慣。 / 曼迪諾(Og Madino)

7. 感恩是一種最好的習慣

不要為你所沒有的抱怨……要珍惜你所擁有的。 / 朱德(H. Stanley Judd)

8. 把人生建立在尊敬的基礎上

「所以無論何事，你們願意人怎樣待你們，你們也要怎樣待人。」 / 馬太福音七章12節

9. 誠實依然是最好的策略

「在國際外交事務、人際關係、勞工、商業、教育、家庭與控制犯罪上，誠實是最好的策略。因為，真理是唯一有效的東西，也是建立持久關係的唯一基礎。」 /克拉克(Ramsey Clark)

10. 和善的言語成就大事

「世界上沒有幾件事比積極的鼓勵更有力量，一個微笑、一句樂觀、充滿希望的話。當事情遇到困難時，說一句：『你能辦得到。』」 / 德伏斯( Richard M. Devos)

11. 真正的動機發自內心

「不論你是誰、你年紀多大，如果你想要得到持久永恆的成功，那驅使你邁向目標的動機必須發自你的內心。」 / 梅爾(Panl J. Meyer)

12. 目標是有底限的夢想

「有目標的人們成功是因為他們知道他們往那裡前進。」 / 奈丁格爾 (Earl Nightingale)

13. 辛勤工作無與倫比

「生命所提供的最好獎賞就是：有機會為值得做的事情辛勤工作。」 / 羅斯福(Theodore Roosevelt)

14. 有得必有失

「決定你要什麼，決定你願意用甚麼來與之交換，把你的前後次序搞清楚，就開始去工作。」 / 韓特(H. Lamar Hunt)

15. 成功者創造時間

「時間是生命，是不可重來、不可逆轉的。浪費時間就是浪費生命；掌握時間就是掌握生命，並充分地使用生命。」 / 蘭凱(Alan Lakein)

16. 自尊是自己成就的

「自尊是在你內裡深處對自己價值的感受。」 / 魏特利(Denis Waitley)

17. 心靈成長也需要營養與運動

「身心靈和諧的運作，決定了我們整個人與我們的健康。」 / 桑若森博士(Dr. Carl Thoresen)

18. 每一個人都有失敗經驗

「如果你願意接受失敗，並從其中有所學習；如果你願意相信失敗是一個化妝的祝福，並從中板回優勢，你就有擁有一個最有利的成功因素與潛能。」 /舒格曼(Joseph Sugarman)

19. 用心體會人生基本要素

「這是我的秘密，一個非常簡單的秘密，就是人只有用心眼去看才會看得正確，真正基本的東西是用肉眼看不見的。」小王子(The Little Prince) /聖艾克斯柏利(Antoine de Saint-Exupery)

20. 最基本的原則是做一個好人

「盡你所能的做一切的善事，用你一切可能的方法行善。」 / 魏斯理（John Wesley）

Something

There is something we always share with friends
There is something we always hide in our heart
There is something we always unable to own

There is something I always want to tell you

Leave

When the wind is here
there will be lesser clouds in the sky

When the sun is here
there will be brighter in the world

When you are not here
there will be rain in my heart

Titleless

总有人问你，有对象没？

呵呵，没有呢。不可能吧！

其实，那是真的，不是没人追，只是没有合适的；不是眼光高，只是没有感觉的。

许有时想恋爱，想让自己不再寂寞，可是那个人却没有,不想随随便便的爱了。

因为有一种单身叫“宁缺勿滥”，有一种单身只为等待某人。

Viewing point

Raining heavily outside.
A:"Thank god it finally rains!"
B:"Damn it! It rains, i couldn't go out now!"

We always look at the situation based on the view that is beneficial to ourselves.
Dont you think so?

Just let it go

Sometime it haunts u in a sudden
Sometime it troubles u for whole night
Sometime it makes u feel angst

Just let it go
Promise me ok

The 12 most annoying types of Facebookers

Here are 12 of the most annoying types of Facebook users:

The Let-Me-Tell-You-Every-Detail-of-My-Day Bore. "I'm waking up." "I had Wheaties for breakfast." "I'm bored at work." "I'm stuck in traffic." You're kidding! How fascinating! No moment is too mundane for some people to broadcast unsolicited to the world. Just because you have 432 Facebook friends doesn't mean we all want to know when you're waiting for the bus.

The Self-Promoter. OK, so we've probably all posted at least once about some achievement. And sure, maybe your friends really do want to read the fascinating article you wrote about beet farming. But when almost EVERY update is a link to your blog, your poetry reading, your 10k results or your art show, you sound like a bragger or a self-centered careerist.

The Friend-Padder. The average Facebook user has 120 friends on the site. Schmoozers and social butterflies -- you know, the ones who make lifelong pals on the subway -- might reasonably have 300 or 400. But 1,000 "friends?" Unless you're George Clooney or just won the lottery, no one has that many. That's just showing off.

The Town Crier. "Michael Jackson is dead!!!" You heard it from me first! Me, and the 213,000 other people who all saw it on TMZ. These Matt Drudge wannabes are the reason many of us learn of breaking news not from TV or news sites but from online social networks. In their rush to trumpet the news, these people also spread rumors, half-truths and innuendo. No, Jeff Goldblum did not plunge to his death from a New Zealand cliff.

The TMIer. "Brad is heading to Walgreens to buy something for these pesky hemorrhoids." Boundaries of privacy and decorum don't seem to exist for these too-much-information updaters, who unabashedly offer up details about their sex lives, marital troubles and bodily functions. Thanks for sharing.

The Bad Grammarian. "So sad about Fara Fauset but Im so gladd its friday yippe". Yes, I know the punctuation rules are different in the digital world. And, no, no one likes a spelling-Nazi schoolmarm. But you sound like a moron.

The Sympathy-Baiter. "Barbara is feeling sad today." "Man, am I glad that's over." "Jim could really use some good news about now." Like anglers hunting for fish, these sad sacks cast out their hooks -- baited with vague tales of woe -- in the hopes of landing concerned responses. Genuine bad news is one thing, but these manipulative posts are just pleas for attention.

The Lurker. The Peeping Toms of Facebook, these voyeurs are too cautious, or maybe too lazy, to update their status or write on your wall. But once in a while, you'll be talking to them and they'll mention something you posted, so you know they're on your page, hiding in the shadows. It's just a little creepy.

The Crank. These curmudgeons, like the trolls who spew hate in blog comments, never met something they couldn't complain about. "Carl isn't really that impressed with idiots who don't realize how idiotic they are." [Actual status update.] Keep spreading the love.

The Paparazzo. Ever visit your Facebook page and discover that someone's posted a photo of you from last weekend's party -- a photo you didn't authorize and haven't even seen? You'd really rather not have to explain to your mom why you were leering like a drunken hyena and French-kissing a bottle of Jagermeister.

The Obscurist. "If not now then when?" "You'll see..." "Grist for the mill." "John is, small world." "Dave thought he was immune, but no. No, he is not." [Actual status updates, all.] Sorry, but you're not being mysterious -- just nonsensical.

The Chronic Inviter. "Support my cause. Sign my petition. Play Mafia Wars with me. Which 'Star Trek' character are you? Here are the 'Top 5 cars I have personally owned.' Here are '25 Things About Me.' Here's a drink. What drink are you? We're related! I took the 'What President Are You?' quiz and found out I'm Millard Fillmore! What president are you?"

You probably mean well, but stop. Just stop. I don't care what president I am -- can't we simply be friends? Now excuse me while I go post the link to this story on my Facebook page.

專注的焦點錯誤，再努力也只是白搭

有一個守衛負責在瑞士和奧地利交界處巡守。

有一天來了一個奧地利人，騎著腳踏車要通過崗哨。

他的腳踏車前面裝了滿滿一籃沙子，要是換做別的守衛，大概揮揮手就放他過去；但是碰到這位守衛可沒那麼簡單。


他直覺奧地利人一定在走私，於是拿出一把耙子，仔細翻檢沙子裡究竟藏了什麼東西。可是他翻了老半天，什麼也沒找到，只好揮揮手放他過去。

第二天，同樣的事情又發生一遍，第三天也是；日復一日，相同情節一再上演。始終找不到任何東西，但他就這樣翻查了三十年。

最後，這位守衛終於忍不住問那位奧地人：「這件事放在我心上好多年了，不過我今天就要退休了，要是我不知道答案，一定會很懊惱，希望你能告訴我答案。」

奧地人這麼多年來和他接觸，也和他有些感情，於是誠懇的點頭說一定會誠實回答。

於是守衛開口問：「這些年來我一直懷疑你走私，你到底是不是走私客？」

奧地利人遲疑了一下，「好吧！我的確是走私客。」

「我就說吧！」守衛說：「可是我天天檢查你的籃子，卻什麼也沒發現，你到底走私什麼東西？」

「腳踏車。」

那些太過專注眼前的人，就是像那位翻查沙子的邊境守衛，專注的焦點錯誤，再努力也只是白搭。

你還在做「那位翻查沙子的邊境守衛」？

當你在抱怨自己是「千里馬」，一直遇不到「伯樂」時，打開你的眼睛、耳朵，換個想法、換個腦袋？

「專注的焦點錯誤，再努力也只是白搭。」

Awesomeness of Nature

女生没有男朋友的好处

1、寿命长，不做大男子的出气筒；
2、省心，不用刻意打扮准备约会；
3、省钱；
4、省时，不用抽时间陪他；有更多的空闲陪伴父母；
5、节约口水；
6、可以随意和姐妹娱乐；
7、敬业，可以专心工作；
8、只要是单身，一家女百家求，身边总不乏追求者。
9、省力，不用去他妈家洗碗。

永远与母亲保持通话，因为她无时无刻不在惦记着你

电话里面“This is a wrong number.Please check up and take the telephone number again....”；电话外面“孩子，你为什么每天都说外语，妈听不懂，但是妈想你...”

Is there anyone still blogging?

Thanks to the jobless day, I decide to visit all my friends' blog. As a result, sadly, I found most of them has either stopped or closed their blogs.

WHY???

From Monash astrophysicist Dr Kevin Pimbblet

"Whenever I speak to people who have influence, politicians and so on, they sometimes ask me 'Why should I invest in physics pure research?'. And I sometimes say to them: 'Do you use a mobile phone? Some of that technology came about by black hole research'.

"The pure research has knock-on effects to the whole society which are sometimes difficult to anticipate."

瓶中鵝

• 星雲 2011-05-14 19:29

有一個寫得很美，關於禪的故事：師父出了一個難題給弟子，他告訴弟子，有一隻小鵝，從小就被裝進瓶子里餵養。3個月後，這只小鵝的身體越來越大，已經大得無法從瓶子里出來了。請問要如何在不打破瓶子的前提下，把鵝活捉出來呢？

這問題把弟子問倒了，弟子每天靜坐冥想，該用怎個方法才能把鵝抓出來呢？最簡單的方法當然是摔破瓶子，可那就破壞了規則，不行。那先把鵝弄死，肢解後再一塊一塊取出來吧？那也不行，規則說了要“活捉”！

● 煩惱的念頭

各位想知道答案嗎？哈哈！撰文至此，我是一定要說的了。其實這答案一點也不科學，卻饒富禪意。

答案：根本沒有瓶子，也沒有鵝，所以沒有問題，也沒有答案。

師父想要表達的是，所有的問題與煩惱，都是你頭腦製造的幻想，它從來不曾存在過。這世上沒有這麼一隻活在瓶子里的鵝，如果你為一個不存在的東西憂慮，那就著相了。

瓶子里的鵝是一個比喻，喻著我們身邊發生的所有大事小事。很多問題，只存在於頭腦，而不出現在現實。

西方一個心理實驗與這故事異曲同工：人的煩惱，40%屬於過去，50%屬於未來，只有10%屬於現在。在這之中，92%的煩惱未曾發生過，剩下的8%則能輕易度過。

當煩惱出現，你要知道，你並沒擁有煩惱，你擁有的，只是一個煩惱的念頭。除卻念頭，甚麼也沒有，就像佛家所說的：“一切有為念有，一切無為念無。”

星洲日報／副刊‧文：米糠‧2011.05.11

Random picture LOL

Empty

You have to empty yourself before filling in new things



**I hate being an empty container**

What I Wanna

I dont need my partner to love me deeply coz I know I will hurt her unintentionally in the future
I want her to stay beside me and stay beside me.

I'm Back

Sometime being simple is not simple at all.

Dedicate to Nakok

Happy Mother's Day :D

Year after year you give me so many reasons to be thankful you're my mum. I love you!

Sister's wedding dinner

When I step into a new stage of my life(job hunting), my elder sister also steps into a later stage of her life. She is getting married tomorrow. C:

Complicated feeling now.
Wishes her in happiness forever and stay sweet with my brother-in-law.

P/s: please don't ask when is my turn ._.

没关系的，那是我爸爸妈妈！

我上床的时候是晚上11点，窗户外面下着小雪。我缩到被子里面，拿起闹钟，发现闹钟停了——我忘买电池了。天这么冷，我不愿意再起来。我就给妈妈打 了个长途电话：“妈，我闹钟没电池了，明天还要去公司开会，要赶早，你六点的时候给我个电话叫我起床吧。”妈妈在那头的声音有点哑，可能已经睡了，她说： “好，乖。”

电话响的时候我在做一个美梦，外面的天黑黑的。妈妈在那边说：“小桔你快起床，今天要开会的。”我抬手看表，才五点四十。我不耐烦地叫起来，“我不是叫你六点吗？我还想多睡一会儿呢，被你搅了！”妈妈在那头突然不说话了，我挂了电话。

起来梳洗好，出门。天气真冷啊，漫天的雪，天地间茫茫一片。公车站台上我不停地跺着脚。周围黑漆漆的，我旁边却站着两个白发苍苍的老人。我听着老先生对老太太说：“你看你一晚都没有睡好，早几个小时就开始催我了，现在等这么久。”

是啊，第一趟班车还要五分钟才来呢。终于车来了，我上车。开车的是一位很年轻的小伙子，他等我上车之后就轰轰地把车开走了。我说：“喂，司机，下面还有两位老人呢，天气这么冷，人家等了很久，你怎么不等他们上车就开车？”

那个小伙子很神气地说：“没关系的，那是我爸爸妈妈！今天是我第一天开公交，他们来看我的！”

我突然就哭了。我看到爸爸发来的短消息：“女儿，妈妈说，是她不好，她一直没有睡好，很早就醒了，担心你会迟到。”

忽然想起一句犹太人谚语：

父亲给儿子东西的时候，儿子笑了。

儿子给父亲东西的时候，父亲哭了。

接吻的18個有趣事實！

每個人可能都知道怎樣接吻，問題是你知道接吻有很多有趣的方面嗎？接吻對你有好處還是有壞處？
日本、法國或者其他國家的人如何接吻？多接吻能減肥嗎？

今天我們來盤點接吻的18個有趣事實。

1.一個熱情的吻會使面部29塊肌肉處於緊張狀態，這29塊肌肉包括12種唇部及17種舌頭部位的肌肉。
換句話說，接吻可以被看做是一種有效的鍛煉方式，它能夠使皮膚更加光滑，預防皺紋，也能夠加速血液循環。

或許接吻的效果要比使用各種護膚霜或做面膜還要好一些。當然，同使用護膚霜以及做面膜相比較而言，接吻的過程要讓人舒服得多。


2.接吻可以預防牙斑和齲齒，和牙膏作用相似。接吻可以刺激分泌大量唾液，唾液中含有鈣和磷，能有效預防齲齒。充滿激情的接吻者不容易得牙齦炎。此外，在接吻過程中，唾液的酸度是中性的，也能預防牙齒疾病。


3.接吻可以讓雙方之間交換唾液，其中包括很多不同的物質，水分、酶、細菌、脂肪、天然鹽以及蛋白質等。根據最新一項研究顯示，以上各種物質交換可以刺激一個人的免疫系統產生抗體。


4.通常66%的人在接吻時閉眼，而其餘的人則很高興看著他們同伴的面部表情發生變化。


5.根據美國統計顯示，美國女性在結婚之前，平均要與80個男人接吻。


6.一個快速浪漫的接吻可能要燃燒2到3卡路里的熱量，而法國式接吻卻至少要燃燒5卡路里，因為法國人接吻需要張開嘴，舌頭進行接觸。科學家宣布，要想達到減肥的效果，我們並不需要瘋狂接吻。每天只需三個持續20秒的吻，就能讓你達到減輕體重的目的。


7.嘴唇的敏感度要比手指的敏感性高200倍。


8.據說，經常接吻的人，其壽命比接吻頻率一般的人長5年，而後者更容易遭遇交通意外。


9.充滿激情的接吻持續90秒鐘，可能致使血壓升高，引起脈搏跳動速度加快。此外，接吻還會增加血液荷爾蒙的水平，減少一分鐘壽命


10.法國式的接吻被稱為“靈魂的結合”。法國人接吻時，不僅嘴唇互相碰觸，舌頭也必須互相接觸。
充滿激情的法國人還發明了另外很多種接吻方式。


11.愛斯基摩人的接吻方式與眾不同，他們僅僅彼此揉揉鼻子而已。只有當接吻對象的嗅覺器官相碰觸後，他們的嘴唇才稍微張開一點兒。然後，愛斯基摩人深吸一口氣，當嘴唇互相結合的時候再釋放出空氣。在盡情享受對方的氣味後，互相用臉頰擠壓對方的鼻子。


12.在臺灣、日本、中國內地以及韓國，在公共場合接吻通常被認為不合禮數。兩名日本人在互相親吻前，應該維持一定的距離，彎腰鞠躬頭相碰後親吻對方一秒鐘。


13.接吻可以幫助女性放鬆，緩解壓力。


14.每個人的一生中平均要花費20160分鐘(大約兩個星期)用來接吻。


15.接吻每持續一分鐘，就能消耗身體中26卡路裏的能量。


16.地球上，每兩個人中的一個人，在14歲之前就已經丟掉了自己的初吻。


17.無論你是不是左撇子，接吻時你通常把頭偏向右邊，如果不是，說明你和接吻對象的感情不怎麽樣。


18.飛吻手勢其實是一種缺乏感情的問候方式。

Will.I.Am

I feel like being a bottle of whisky.

Need time to get myself mature more.

Getting more and more quiet.

A quiet taste. On the rock.

那些女孩

就会那么傻的女孩

在那边痴痴地等待他的回头

毫不留意到

在身旁另一个傻男孩

10 things to learn from Japan-

1. THE CALM
Not a single visual of chest-beating or wild grief. Sorrow itself has been elevated.

2. THE DIGNITY
Disciplined queues for water and groceries. Not a rough word or a crude gesture.

3. THE ABILITY
The incredible architects, for instance. Buildings swayed but didn’t fall.

4. THE GRACE
People bought only what they needed for the present, so everybody could get something.

5. THE ORDER
No looting in shops. No honking and no overtaking on the roads. Just understanding.

6. THE SACRIFICE
Fifty workers stayed back to pump sea water in the N-reactors. How will they ever be repaid?

7. THE TENDERNESS
Restaurants cut prices. An unguarded ATM is left alone. The strong cared for the weak.

8. THE TRAINING
The old and the children, everyone knew exactly what to do. And they did just that.

9. THE MEDIA
They showed magnificent restraint in the bulletins. No silly reporters. Only calm reportage.

10. THE CONSCIENCE
When the power went off in a store, people put things back on the shelves and left quietly

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有人說我像九把刀

寂寞的人，怕的不是寂寞。
　　而是不知不覺習慣了孤獨。